Emma says “Thank you” all day long. She will continue to say “Thank you” until she hears a reply of “Your welcome”. She is very polite for only being two years old. We are very proud of her and the way she behaves. She has even started asking “Are you Ok?” when someone bumps into something or something falls. Then she will keep saying it until she hears a reply. Now at 28 months Emma can throw away her own diaper. She does it without being told if I’m not fast enough at doing it myself. She will throw it away in the trash, the wrapper or stick to her ice pop when she is done, without being told to. She doesn’t play with the trash or throw away toys. When she throws something away we say “Thank you” and she replies with “Your welcome” and clapping her hands. She knows how proud we are of her. Her good behavior is followed by praise. When I was a child, my mother once told me “I’m not going to praise you for doing something you knew you were already supposed to do” No wonder I was a little brat. The only way I got recognized was for doing wrong. This is a horrible thing to say to a child. A child that gets praise for good behavior or positive reinforcement is used will more likely listen and have better manners.
I was so worried about her learning empathy. I didn’t think she was going to pick it up as soon as she did. She always laughed if someone got hurt. She thought it was funny. She didn’t understand that other people can get hurt and thought it was a game. With time she has grown into such a caring baby girl and she is a total sweetheart.
She hears me say Thank you all day long. I say thank you to everyone after almost everything. All day long I am saying thank you. I try to be the nicest person I can, and let people know that they are appreciated. Saying thank you, your welcome, I love you, and are you ok, is the most used words out of my mouth. In return my daughter has learned the same mannerisms. Everyone in my household uses thank you regularly.
We are still working on the word please. Emma doesn’t hear the word please as much as the other words. When asking her to do something, I’m not giving her an option. I am telling her to do it. I will thank her for doing so, but it’s not an option it is a demand. She knows when I tell her to stop doing something or to do something she doesn’t have a choice, but will be appreciated for doing so. She listens even if she doesn’t want to. Sometimes she says no, because she doesn’t want to do something, she does it anyways. I know that she is saying no, because she doesn’t want to. Not because she is not going to do what I asked her. I still reply with don’t tell me no, but that’s the end of it, and followed by a thank you after she does what she is told.