When I had my first daughter, I had a male doctor. He was very intelligent, however wasn't as vocal with what was happening to my body as I would have liked him to be. He did a great job with Emma and I and the labor went great. I had heard of midwives before but I thought that was something they did in the olden days, when you could have your baby in your home. Like an old folk tale, I didn't know much about midwives. A lot of people around me that were having children were using midwives. As far as I know, most midwives are female. I thought that by having a midwife they would be more in tune with your feeling and supportive.
When I became pregnant with Mya I decided to try a midwife. There was a team of midwives and I saw a different one each time I went to the doctors. They were very nice, and they had an ultra sound machine right in the office. Midwives are not Doctors. They are qualified to deliver a baby naturally, but not by c-section. They don't prepare you for if you do need a c-section. My whole pregnancy they knew my placenta was low. They told me my placenta wasn't low enough to be considered placenta previa. During labor my placenta started coming out first. I was rushed in for an emergency c-section. After having an epidural ten minutes before hand I was given spinal anesthesia for my c-section. They injected another needle into my spine. The spinal didn't work in time so they put a mask over my face and gave me general and put me to sleep. They had an anesthesiologist that took care of all the anesthetics. All of a sudden a Doctor that I had never met before comes in and starts getting ready to do my c-section. I don't know who delivered Mya, because I had a midwife and needed an emergency c-section. I was asleep during the c-section and because I was put asleep for the procedure, my husband wasn't aloud in the room. They made him wait outside the room while they took Mya out. Mya's first moments of life she didn't get her mommy or her daddy. Something was wrong with that situation alone.
The point I was trying to make is I will never use a midwife. Now knowing that midwives are not trained enough to deliver a baby via c-section, what makes them qualified to deliver a baby naturally? Taking a class? I don't think a baby should be delivered by someone who is not qualified like a doctor. What if something went wrong during natural labor? The midwife only checked me three times before I had my c-section. They knew my placenta was low, they made me go for an ultra sound once a week for the last month and a half of my pregnancy. They weren't qualified enough to know I need a planned c-section, or deal with the complications I had during my pregnancy, never mind labor and delivery. They were very nice, but nice doesn't keep you or your baby safe during something so complicated as child birth. Child birth is different for every body and every pregnancy. Being qualified to handle complications and have adequate licenses to deliver babies should be important to someone planning on having a child. Just because a midwife is a woman, doesn't mean they are qualified to deliver a baby. A man can deliver a baby just as well as a woman. However I believe regardless of sex they should have a doctor degree in OB to deliver a baby. So to me a midwife is a less then qualified doctor who can't do procedures that a qualified doctor would be more prepared for. Think of the baby, and put the life of that baby in the hands of someone who is prepared for anything and capable of delivering the baby safely no matter the circumstances. Choose a doctor that can look for the warning signs of compactions and handle them appropriately and professionally.
We Love the Babies
Mother of 3, graduated from Early Childhood Education program and continues to further knowledge on child development.